Podcast Episodes

June 23, 2022

Ep 229 - Girl Power

Anna — a black belt student who has been training for over 20 years — joins Tim and Steve to discuss some of the differences between women and men training in the dojo: There are no weight divisions or gender divisions in life — life is not fair Women often have a disadvantage in the dojo when training with men Many men can learn a thing or two from women in the dojo Frustration is a part of our lives — we must deal with it “There's something so special about a wo...
Ep 229 - Girl Power
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Ep 229 - Girl Power
June 16, 2022

Ep 228 - The Touchstones of Goodness

2 weeks ago Marc, Tim, and Steve discussed Marcus Aurelius and the Touchstones of Goodness. This is Part 2 from that conversation. More on Marcus Aurelius is discussed, and much of it you can read below. We also talk about: The importance of finding a community where positive growth is cultivated Creating a “current” — a flow of what it is you ultimately want through consistency Marcus Aurelius called them the “Touchstones of Goodness” — Courage, Temperance, Justice, Wisdom. These...
Ep 228 - The Touchstones of Goodness
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Ep 228 - The Touchstones of Goodness
June 9, 2022

Ep 227 - Replace Fear with Hope, Faith, and Love

Tim and Steve talk about the abundance of fear right now. It’s time to replace fear with: Hope Truth Faith Love fearmonger | (ˈfɪərˌmʌŋɡər) (noun) — someone who deliberately spreads fear among people
Ep 227 - Replace Fear with Hope, Faith, and Love
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Ep 227 - Replace Fear with Hope, Faith, and Love
June 2, 2022

Ep 226 - Courage, Justice, Temperance, Wisdom

Marc Berardinelli, Tim, and Steve discuss Marcus Aurelius and the Touchstones of Goodness: Many call them “cardinal virtues” — they have been adopted by Christianity, most of the Western world, as well as Buddhism, Hinduism, and just about every other philosophy They’re called “cardinal" because they originate from the Latin cardo which means hinge It’s pivotal stuff — the hardware upon which the door to the "good life" hangs
Ep 226 - Courage, Justice, Temperance, Wisdom
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Ep 226 - Courage, Justice, Temperance, Wisdom
May 26, 2022

Ep 225 - Moments of Compassion Require Courage

There must be a strength that comes from your heart to stand up to the world and still do good things Courage is built around Faith Courage and Faith together create Compassion
Ep 225 - Moments of Compassion Require Courage
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Ep 225 - Moments of Compassion Require Courage
May 19, 2022

Ep 224 - The Slow Horse Ultimately Wins

Bob Vidoni joins Tim and Steve to discuss one of his favorite profound excerpts from Zen Mind, Beginner's Mind — the book of teachings by the late Shunryu Suzuki. We should always strive to be the best we can be, however, "the best" is relative. If you think you're always going to "win" simply because you're the best, you'll be mistaken. Overcome the pain and grow through facing obstacles There's always going to be something that knocks us back Slow down and don't worry about b...
Ep 224 - The Slow Horse Ultimately Wins
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Ep 224 - The Slow Horse Ultimately Wins
May 12, 2022

Ep 223 - Lose So That You Win

Tim and Steve talk about sparring in the dojo. When people fight in a controlled atmosphere it’s often best to use that experience to grow from — rather than win. It’s about embracing and purposely losing in the short term — in order to win in the long run. It’s our “Ninja vs Samurai” concept. There’s a time and place for each.
Ep 223 - Lose So That You Win
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Ep 223 - Lose So That You Win
May 5, 2022

Ep 222 - Random Thoughts on Confidence, Fear, and More

Some of the profound thoughts Bernie, Tim, and Steve share: Strive to not take things personally, and not be concerned with being popular Own your thoughts, your words, and your space — stop renting these Confidence must grow in all different types of situations Controlling fear is a lifelong struggle
Ep 222 - Random Thoughts on Confidence, Fear, and More
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Ep 222 - Random Thoughts on Confidence, Fear, and More
April 28, 2022

Ep 221 - It's Good Until It's Not

Bernie, Tim, and Steve talk about: A simple way to take conflict out of discussions How you are responsible for yourself — and that is all How controlling your ego allows you to make good choices
Ep 221 - It's Good Until It's Not
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Ep 221 - It's Good Until It's Not
April 21, 2022

Ep 220 - Joy and Pain are like Sunshine and Rain

Like the song “Joy and Pain” this episode reminds us that life’s beauty often comes after pain. Learn through your mistakes One of the biggest fears people have is failure You've got to experience failure before you can succeed Sometimes you must taste the “sour” before you can enjoy the “sweet” “Joy and pain are like sunshine and rain Over and over you can be sure There will be sorrow but you will endure Where there's a flower there's the sun and the rain Oh and ...
Ep 220 - Joy and Pain are like Sunshine and Rain
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Ep 220 - Joy and Pain are like Sunshine and Rain
April 14, 2022

Ep 219 - Be Real, Set Yourself Free

Pat Shea has more guts than most. His courage to share a social media post is commendable. It might be what you need to hear. It will resonate with a lot of people, but very few would be as brave to admit the things he says. Listen to this episode and let us know if you can relate. “The most important day is the day you decide that you're good enough for you. It's the day you set yourself free.” — Brittany Josephina
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Ep 219 - Be Real, Set Yourself Free
April 7, 2022

Ep 218 - To Make a Difference You've Got to Be Different

When you want to become great, when you want to make a difference in people's lives, when you want to live a purposeful life — things happen when you want them as much as you want to breathe. Hear the story about the football coach and the aspiring athlete. “If you desire to make a difference in the world, you must be different from the world.” — Elaine S Dalton On this episode we talk about choices, grit, discipline, willpower, and more.
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Ep 218 - To Make a Difference You've Got to Be Different
March 31, 2022

Ep 217 - Let's Create What It Is We DO Want

The way you think, the words you speak, and the actions you take — it's all energy. Focus your energy on what you want, rather than what you're looking to avoid. "I will never attend an anti-war rally. If you have a peace rally, invite me." — Mother Teresa
Ep 217 - Let's Create What It Is We DO Want
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Ep 217 - Let's Create What It Is We DO Want
March 24, 2022

Ep 216 - Martial Arts Training is Unique and Not For Everyone

Tim and Steve talk about how training in the martial arts is unique to other forms of physical exercise. Some of what's discussed includes: Martial arts training "rewires your brain" No place for electronics — you're "unplugged" Relationships are not only mandatory, but necessary A unique way to approach mental focus and spiritual awareness Eliminating external noise and dealing with real distractions that are within you “Any man could, if he were so inclined, be the s...
Ep 216 - Martial Arts Training is Unique and Not For Everyone
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Ep 216 - Martial Arts Training is Unique and Not For Everyone
March 18, 2022

Ep 215 - Teaching, Preaching, Reaching

Steve Fleisher joins Tim and Steve. When people ask exactly what it is he does, he tells them he does a little teaching, a little preaching, and a little reaching. Some of the topics include: “Top of the Main Line to the bottom of the drain line” If you can put a price tag on something, it's not that valuable Who is rich? A rich person is one who is content with what they have It’s the intangibles that have the greatest value: life, love, health, family, friendship, happiness,...
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Ep 215 - Teaching, Preaching, Reaching
March 10, 2022

Ep 214 - There Are No Shortcuts for Hard Work

Kevin McGee joins Tim and Steve. Some of the topics discussed include: Forget the phrase “It is what it is” — because it is what you make it A warrior shows up and puts in the hard work Become comfortable and confident Reading people “A warrior doesn’t seek pain, but if pain comes, he uses it.” — Dan Millman "If you want to see the sunshine, you have to weather the storm." — Frank Lane
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Ep 214 - There Are No Shortcuts for Hard Work
March 3, 2022

Ep 213 - Community, Camaraderie, and Contribution

If we've said it once, we've said it a thousand times: Life is about choices. You and those around you will live a fuller, richer life, and perhaps discover the reason you're here if you decide to: Become a better person Become more responsible for your own actions Learn to acknowledge the noise and distractions and let them go “We rise by lifting others.” — Robert Ingersoll
Ep 213 - Community, Camaraderie, and Contribution
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Ep 213 - Community, Camaraderie, and Contribution
Feb. 24, 2022

Ep 212 - Acknowledge the Distraction, Then Let Go

Do an online search on “how to focus” and you’ll find many “expert” blogs recommending to get rid of distractions. Good luck with that! You’ll NEVER be able to eliminate all distractions life throws at you. Paul Vrabel discusses realistic ways to improve your focus: Focus on one thing at a time Don’t get wrapped up in what could be Focus on the problem in front of you and work it Acknowledge the distraction, let it go, and come back to where you are in the moment
Ep 212 - Acknowledge the Distraction, Then Let Go
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Ep 212 - Acknowledge the Distraction, Then Let Go
Feb. 17, 2022

Ep 211 - Bruce Lee was NOT a Black Belt?!

<>A means to an end helps achieve what you want, although it may not be valued or important itself. Tim and Steve suggest examining your motives, goals, and priorities in your life. Are you doing something to ultimately achieve a goal? Or because it's what you're "supposed to do" according to society and culture? The answer to this will determine where your energy is focused and if you're living the life you want — or the life others tell you that you want. In other words, are you driven inte...
Ep 211 - Bruce Lee was NOT a Black Belt?!
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Ep 211 - Bruce Lee was NOT a Black Belt?!
Feb. 10, 2022

Ep 210 - In a Dark Time, the Eye Begins to See

There is no doubt we are living through a dark time. As Theodore Roethke wrote: “In a dark time, the eye begins to see …” Collectively, our eyes are opening up to the external world. Individually, we are seeing into our subconscious more. Many are now questioning things that before we just accepted — how we think, how we act and react, and our neuro-linguistic programming (NLP). There’s a better understanding that the animal we feed will be in charge of our lives. This is similar to last week...
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Ep 210 - In a Dark Time, the Eye Begins to See
Feb. 3, 2022

Ep 209 - The Choice is Yours to Make

Tim and Steve share a story with a duck and an eagle. You can be either. The choice is yours. If you get up in the morning expecting to have a bad day, you’ll rarely disappoint yourself. Ducks quack and complain. Eagles soar above the crowd. Don’t be a duck. Be an eagle. “I want to fly like an eagle to the sea, fly like an eagle, let my spirit carry me” — The Steve Miller Band
Ep 209 - The Choice is Yours to Make
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Ep 209 - The Choice is Yours to Make
Jan. 27, 2022

Ep 208 - The Gift of Fear

Controlling and learning about fear and anxiety has been the topic the last couple weeks with Tim Hawk, Tim, and Steve. We continue this week with these topics and more: Fear is a gift given to us (trust your instinct) Exercise, meditation, nutrition Control your breath Build relationships
Ep 208 - The Gift of Fear
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Ep 208 - The Gift of Fear
Jan. 20, 2022

Ep 207 - Understand Fear and Anxiety So They Don't Control You

Last week Tim Hawk, Tim, and Steve discussed fear. On this episode, they dive deeper into understanding anxiety (especially through the pandemic). You’ll hear things you can do to eliminate both fear and anxiety — or least control them — including: Take small acts of bravery (“bridging”) Get to know your anxiety — learn as much as you can Change your perception — at minimum confirm your perception is truthful
Ep 207 - Understand Fear and Anxiety So They Don't Control You
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Ep 207 - Understand Fear and Anxiety So They Don't Control You
Jan. 13, 2022

Ep 206 - Mad, Glad, Sad, and Afraid

Tim Hawk — with a background in psychology — joins Tim and Steve to discuss being afraid. Fear is a primary emotion we all experience at times, in different ways and at different levels. What can we learn from fear? How can we control it? Can it be good? Hear that and more.
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Ep 206 - Mad, Glad, Sad, and Afraid